News! And Thanksgiving!

I got a B! And an A on the final. That’s the part I’m most excited about. The A, and of course, the fact that the class is finished. It’s all good.

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! We had a very Harris Thanksgiving yesterday at the in-laws new house (only a 3ish hour drive north, as opposed to our usual 5+ hour trek north for Harris Holidays). And, no, we never stay there. It’s not what the Harris’ do. I’m adjusting just fine, thank you. The Harris’ also do not discuss politics and/or religion. Well, actually, these two don’t. The other 12 do, and we try to blend into the conservativeness by saying nothing. And thank goodness I didn’t join in with my two cents, as partway through dinner, Mike’s cousin called from Iraq. (Mike and I didn’t know he was there. oops) I have also never met this cousin, so when the phone started making its way around the table, I attempted to hide in the kitchen. They found me. It wasn’t pretty.

me: Hi (cousin’s name here)! Happy Thanksgiving! This is Kim, Mike’s wife. You haven’t met me.
pause to wait for my words to go halfway around the world.
me: (not waiting long enough for him to actually respond cause I was nervous and feeling stupid.) um, everyone here is missing you lots, here’s your dad…

What do you say to a cousin-in-law that you have never met who is overseas with the military in a place I didn’t think we should have gone near? “Damn, that sucks that you aren’t here for Thanksgiving; too bad a small majority of American states voted for the wrong president”…”Uh, wow, it must be hot there! Hope you don’t have to shoot anyone”… There are lots of things that shouldn’t be said, but I couldn’t really come up with anything that was ok to be said, plus, I WAS ON THE PHONE WITH SOMEONE I DIDN’T KNOW AND 13 PEOPLE WERE WATCHING ME!!! Thankfully, the littlest Harris (somewhere around 13 years old give or take a year or two) came over and gave me a hug and said that she didn’t know who was on the phone when they handed it to her and even after they explained who it was, she couldn’t remember ever meeting this cousin. She’s the sweetest kid. ever. But I still felt really dumb.

Families are hard. Especially when it’s family that you married into and they are completely different from your own. They are wonderful people, but we have pretty different views of the world, and I was exhausted after spending the afternoon pretending to have no opinions about anything except for how wonderful dinner was. Mike’s uncle took a billion pictures and promised to send them by email. I almost asked if I could put a couple on my blog, but luckily I figured out that would blow my cover and some of them might actually read the blog and find out how I feel about politics and/or religion. We can’t have that. Not yet, anyway.

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3 Responses to News! And Thanksgiving!

  1. Julie says:

    Oh, man — awkward!!!

    My in-laws always want me to talk to the Jellyman’s Indian relatives when they call them. I’ve met them — once — but most of them speak uncertain English and my Bengali is non-existent. It’s always fun.

    On the other hand, my in-laws hate Bush as much as I do, so I’ve got that much going for me…. :)

  2. It’s not always easy to mix which other cultures, especially the Welsh. However, your situation may just be an instance of poor communication. According to this** arcticle, “a large number of Welsh speakers are more comfortable expressing themselves in Welsh than in English”. It’s often easy to misinterpret the english of non-native english speakers. You may want to try and pick up some Welsh… it could turn out that their opinions aren’t that different than your own when they can communiate them in a language they are more comfortable with.

    ** http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Welsh_people

  3. Kim says:

    But none of them are Welsh!!!! You shouldn’t believe anything Mike says on that subject.

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